Hello you,
I’m writing this letter to you today because I have been where you are & sometimes still struggle with loneliness.
First let me say, your feelings are valid & real, because you are feeling them right now, which is why you may have come to this page.
Loneliness can occur in a crowded room full of people. That’s sounds weird right? But it’s not really because if you don’t know anyone or you’re too anxious to talk to anyone, then you end up standing on the outside looking in.
Although it is probably the very last thing you want to do, take a deep breath & start a conversation. Look for someone who looks as nervous as you feel & introduce yourself. Ask them how they are, what brings them to this gathering, or just empathise with how they may be feeling too. Very often people will be relieved that they are not alone in these feelings.
If that person isn’t very talkative however, just move on & try again. If you need a little pep talk to yourselves, head to the restroom & take a few moments to gather your thoughts, then try again.
Of course loneliness can also occur when you’re actually alone with no one else around at all. These are the times I find the hardest. I am a sufferer of chronic illness & spend a lot of time alone in my home while my family are at work. I find having a radio playing & hearing a human voice is very comforting.
I even call into some requests or competitions sometimes! If that’s not your thing though, you can always go outside.
Going outside, being in nature, or just simply walking to the shops is so useful in getting yourself out of your own head & looking around you at the world & the people in it. Being in your garden, you can hear birds, sometimes traffic & the buzz of other people’s conversations. These are all signs of life & potential people you can talk to.
Even just doing your food shop can give a person or people to talk to, that vital human interaction that can ease your loneliness.
I hope these few points have been useful for you. It’s by no means an exhaustive list; but I hope it helps you to do at least one thing to break that feeling of loneliness that you have.
Have a beautiful day & think about who would you like to invite out for a coffee, walk or whatever you want to do.
With so much love,
Lisa-Kim